The edge of your comfort zoneBy Jenny Boylan | Jun 08, 12 11:00 AM
Want success? It begins at the edge of your comfort zone ...
Ever wonder why it seems so difficult to move to a new level of success?
After all, you’re smart and motivated. You also have a clear vision for your life, and one which leaves little doubt as to what you want to achieve and to experience.
In addition, you have both the inspiration and the determination to do whatever it takes to reach your goals and live your dreams. You’re ready to give everything you have in order to make them an actual, tangible reality. In fact, you have already done so—only without the subsequent success. This, of course, then begs the question: Why, despite your unwavering commitment and perseverance, does your success remain limited or stuck at the status quo level?
The reason is as simple as it is uncomfortable to acknowledge: Somewhere along your path toward your goal you subconsciously stopped yourself from taking that one pivotal step that changes everything. And more often than not, this “stopping point” is found at the very edge of your comfort zone.
Because the truth is, even though you seek change and greater success, you simultaneously crave the safety and security from that which you are familiar. Yet whenever the experience of status quo arises or persists in your life, it means your desire for change and greater success is in direct conflict with a much stronger and often hidden need for safety and security. It’s this inherent need for one over the other which then creates the impasse. To complicate matters further, you’re likely unaware that this need for safety and security is triggered and then amplified the closer you are to reaching that new level of success—especially as this is when the chaos hits. For the desire for greater success brings with it an often unexpected level of chaos as your world begins to rearrange itself to support your new life.
This means that whatever no longer supports your growth and continued success must leave your life in order to create space for the new. It’s a process, however, that temporarily creates an “in-between state” whereby your old life leaves, but the new one has yet to materialise in any significant way. As such, your life may feel empty, uncomfortable and unfamiliar—and without any apparent relief on the horizon. The good news, however, is that when this situation arises, it means you’ve not only stepped to the edge of your comfort zone, you’ve also stepped to the edge of greater success, too. Yet it’s your lack of awareness of this in-between state combined with your need to feel safe and secure that turns this edge of success into a ledge of potential failure—and one from which you’d rather not fall.
Thus, the temptation to retreat or to step away from the ledge towards the perceived safety and security of your old life will be strong. To do so, however, is to subconsciously sabotage yourself and your success—and ultimately to become stuck in the status quo. The best way, then, to navigate through this change is to expect and embrace the chaos. Recognise, too, that it is a necessary, yet unavoidable part of the change process.
Last, but not least, begin to get comfortable with being uncomfortable—as the experience of discomfort arises whenever you pursue a new goal or a different life dream. This way, whenever that “edge turned ledge” does appear, rather than step back or fall…you’ll fly into an amazing and successful new life!
In addition to being a Spiritual Renegade™, Jenny Boylan is an internationally known success and wealth coach and mentor who teaches her clients how to think differently, so they can live abundantly. For more information about her work, visit http://www.thespiritualrenegade.com